My husband and I took a hard look at our parenting style last night. We admitted it's mostly about survival. Getting the kids from one place to the other. Making sure they eat are safe and mostly happy. We try to squeeze family time in as much as possible.
But for the most part we are on survival mode. Some days the happiest time is bedtime.
Our Bible study started Visionary Parenting yesterday, which you can find here. It was eye opening and sobering.
Dr. Rob Rienow starts the series off by asking what do you hope your children look like when they're 20? 40? 80?
What do you want to be the center of their lives?
What we do now, matters to them then--when we are long gone.
And then he gave us the very well-known Bible verse: Love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your might. If you've ever been to Sunday School, you've probably heard that verse from Deuteronomy 6:4. But it's what comes in the verses after it that really put us in our place last night.
It goes on to command: Keep these words...Recite them to your children and talk about them when you are at home and when you are away, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
As in make time every single day, multiple times a day, to teach them about God. Because, frankly, all the carpools and soccer games and playdates won't really matter when they are 40 or 80. This is the stuff--their hearts--that's what really matters. That's where we should put all our time and energy.
So we started a new thing last night. We asked our kids for prayer requests. Yes, bedtime took a lot longer. Yes, I exhausted. But it was amazing what was on their little hearts, what worries them, what they think about.
We have a long way to go. But our Bible study challenged us to stop looking at the short-term day to day struggles and start focusing our long-term goals for our kids. Have you thought about your kids past today? What will they look like in 20 years? How about in 50 years? And what are you doing to help shape them?